Warning: This post is for adults only. Preferably married women : )
Most women with endometriosis have some level of pain during or after intercourse. I have experienced this myself for years, off and on, but never really spoke with my husband about it.
Eric and I have one of those relationships where we tell each other everything, but this was different. There have been enough sacrifices over the years that my husband has willingly made due to my illness, and I really didn’t want sex to be one of them. And honestly, even though I often had pain afterwards, I didn’t want to give up sex either!
Fortunately for me, I rarely had pain during intercourse, it was usually mild discomfort in certain situations. But afterwards and the whole next day… owie!
I told Mary, my therapist at Clear Passage, about the issue and one of the biggest improvements I have experienced has been in this area! She worked on some scar tissue internally, and no, it wasn’t fun. But it was worth it.
After a couple treatments, she suggested I try some sexual activities to see if my pain had improved. My husband jokingly called it our homework and kept reminding me that we had assignments to get to!
I was so nervous starting out, because I had finally come clean that week with Eric about the effects sex had been having on me and I knew if it wasn’t better, he was going to seriously reduce our activity in order not to hurt me.
So, we did our homework and guess what?
No pain!
Mary also gave me some tools to use at home, and I will continue using them for a few minutes each day to work on that scar tissue.
Even if this was all that was improved during my therapy, it was worth it. If you are struggling with pain during intercourse, I would suggest chatting with one of Clear Passage’s therapist to see if they might be able to help you. Sex is a beautiful part of marriage and something to be enjoyed.
I would also suggest being honest with your husband about it, if you haven’t already. No need to suffer quietly. You can work together to find ways to avoid the painful consequences and it might even bring you closer.
Here is a look at their success rates in treating pain. You can read more about how they treat painful intercourse here.
Mamala says
Just got this today–stoopid McPuter.
I am so glad for your success. I totally get it–not wanting to involve him in your next day’s pain. You took his needs in mind–over your own–just another continuance of the life that you have led.
Of course this is a much better scenario–not only the lack of pain–(WHICH IS HUGE), but also the drawing together–Closer.
Closer.
Closer.
God’s plan for us married folks–and Satan’s great consternation.
You are the best wife I know.