Blessing Your Husband: Day 4

Blessing Your Husband Challenge

Happy Independence Day to my American readers!

Welcome to Day 4 of Blessing Your Husband! If you haven’t yet downloaded the challenge, you can do so here for free.

Sometimes in this challenge, you’ll get to one and you can’t make it work for the day. This was the case for me on Day 4 of the Challenge.

I am doing the Challenge a few days ahead of you guys, so that I can blog about it. Day 4 rolled around and I was supposed to take a walk with my honey.

On the day in question, I wouldn’t even see my husband until bedtime. So I put it on the calendar for another day.

So our walk hasn’t happened yet. But when it does, it will be nice to get out of the house and enjoy each other’s company with nothing but nature to distract us.

If you get to a challenge you can’t complete for some reason, just schedule it for another day! You can still pray and meditate on the verse and do your fill-in sentence. And if you can’t, just skip a day and move on when you’re ready.

Sometimes when you do something like that, the timing ends up being perfect for a later task. So don’t beat yourself up if you fall behind!

As I am writing this, Wednesday night, I am recovering from a terrible day. I had surgery that put me into menopause last year and I take hormones every day now just to stay balanced. I ran out of my hormones for a couple of days and my body and my mind were absolutely a hot mess. Quite literally. I am a walking hot flash.

I was also on my way to being deeply depressed, I couldn’t stop crying, and I had a constant buzzing feeling in my head. I’ll tell you, it’s scary to think of what it would be like if I couldn’t have access to those hormones for some reason!

So while I was dealing with these emotional and physical challenges, all kinds of things that had been building up for a while came to a head at the same time. I mean, like 3 different situations were thrown at me in the span of two hours.

I did not handle it gracefully.

I lashed out at and I had a meltdown.

My husband was a little scared at first, but then he just hugged me and prayed for me. Poor guy. I would not want to be married to a menopausal woman! Fortunately, none of these situations involved my husband at all, so he was able to remain an innocent bystander.

I read my Bible and tried to calm down and react like a 36 year old woman of God, but I just failed. I wanted to crawl into bed and put the covers over my head.

So I did. I totally wimped out.

But before I did, I put a brief prayer request on my personal Facebook. I slept a little, and when I woke up, things didn’t seem quite as hopeless as they had before. My head is still buzzing and I’ve got some uncomfortable conversations to look forward to, but I know things will be okay.

I can feel the prayers, and I can feel hope. And I know once I get the meds, the buzzing and the hot flashes will stop and all will be right with the world again.

So why am I telling you all of this?

Because at some point during my meltdown, I texted my mom and she said that she felt I was being spiritually attacked because of this 30 Day Challenge.

I totally agree. And if this attack was a test, boy did I fail it!

But I am not going to let that keep me down.

And I am not going to hide the fact that I have terrible days sometimes and I lose my mind a little. Because I KNOW that some of you lose your mind a little too. And I refuse to only show you the pretty, making my husband happy side of myself. If you’re along for this ride with me, I’m going to share the good, the bad, and the ugly. Sure, I didn’t expect it to get ugly 4 days in, but what are you going to do?

I am a flawed human being. I did not even want to write this post, but I felt I needed to.

If you have made a decision to do this challenge, chances are you are going to be attacked at some point, if you haven’t already.

Hopefully, you’ll handle it better than I did. If you know it’s coming, you can gear up and get armed with lots of scriptures and prayer!

And remember, if you are feeling attacked, it means you are doing something right. Something that makes the enemy want to stop you, or distract you.

Don’t let him.

If you got to have a lovely, hand-holding walk with your husband today, I would love to hear about it!

Blessing Your Husband: Day 3

Blessing Your Husband Challenge

Welcome to Day 3 of Blessing Your Husband! If you haven’t yet downloaded the challenge, you can do so here for free.

Today’s task was to find a scripture for your husband and pray it for him.

If you’re not already praying daily with your husband, and he is a believer, ask if you can pray with him each morning before work, or at bedtime. If your husband is not a believer, he may still be open to this. If not, you can obviously pray on your own.

Each year, I find a verse or passage to pray over each of my family members for the year. But when I came to this challenge, I decided to pray for a verse especially for that day. That morning, I prayed and began reading my Bible and something stood out to me, that I needed to pray for my husband.

However. This particular verse was an instructional verse, something that I think God was putting on my heart to pray for my husband. It wasn’t something I felt I was supposed to share with him, but something I was supposed to keep to myself and just pray for on his behalf. Does that make sense?

So, I asked God for another verse, something just to encourage Eric. And then, I got distracted in my reading and went on with my day, forgetting all about the little task I had set out to do.

Later that night, I was praying for my little girl, who was going through some little girl stuff. I decided to write out some verses for her and in doing so, I remembered I was supposed to do that for my husband. And, what do you know, there was the perfect verse for him, right on the page I was reading.

He was already asleep, so I wrote it on a sticky note and put it on his sink so he’d see it first thing in the morning. When I saw it later, he had moved it to the mirror and kept it there.

Here's my sticky note

Here’s my sticky note

He mentioned it later that day and thanked me for it. He didn’t say anything about the verse and whether or not it helped his day. But I have walked past that sticky note at least a dozen times since, and every time, I pray that verse for my husband.

What’s funny to me is that I was up late, writing out a page of several verses to encourage my daughter before I remembered to finish finding one for my husband.

I had to ask myself, do I focus more on my kids than I do my husband? At this stage in my life, I absolutely do. And that’s how it should be. Because my husband is a great daddy, he feels the same way. But at the same time, I need to remember that my husband comes before any earthly relationship, and my time should reflect that.

I spend a great deal of time praying for my kids and teaching them about God’s Word and God’s ways during our days. I had to ask myself, how often do I encourage my husband out loud in the Word? Not enough lately.

I don’t need to be teaching my husband as I do my children, but I should be looking for ways to encourage His walk with God, too. I should be speaking to him in Psalms, hymns, and spiritual songs often. (Eph. 5:19)

I should remember that pleasant words are like a honeycomb, sweet to the soul and healing to the bones. (Proverbs 16:24) And what is more pleasant than God’s Word?

Doing this challenge has reminded me to be more intentional about blessing my husband with encouragement in God’s perfect Word.

I didn’t expect this challenge to, well, challenge me so much.

I’m only three days in and I am realizing there are a lot of little areas I’ve let slide. I don’t earn my husband’s love or God’s love by doing these things, but I am always up for growing and brightening my husband’s day!

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Thanks to all of you who are sharing this Challenge! I appreciate every email and Facebook message and comment. I like to think I will be obedient to what God laid on my heart to share, with or without feedback, but your feedback is helping me to stay on track, too!

At the recent CHEA convention, I did a workshop about this challenge and on being a wife to rush home to. If you would like an mp3 of this, you can order one here for $5. (You can also check out a homemaking workshop I did.) I don’t get any money off of this at all, every cent goes to CHEA. Just wanted to let you know there was some bonus content available :)